“You seem to be tired” is the most used stanza by my mom whenever she ring me up.
How could she understand my worry, my pain , my grief in just one word “Hello”.
Kartavya is of 6 now & Khwahish is turning 4 soon , And on Iooking back, I see my failures as a mother & literally speaking, I can top in this category.
Yes New mommies, its a 24 x 7 job, with no break, no holidays & nor any sick leave.
Tiring right: but then;
Parenting is like, “if you are not tired, you are not doing it right.”
Yes Mommies,“I am a Tired mother”.
But from being a Good Mother, a Good Doctor, a Good Wife, a Good Daughter in law, a Good Homemaker and what not, That Carefree Binny got lost somewhere.
- Binny ; who used to wake up at 10am for her 10:30 am lecture, just so that she doesn’t have to wait in the bathroom que, started waking up at 6am so her kids can learn importance of hygiene & time-management.
- Binny ; who use to have her breakfast under her desk during lectures is now noting down 5min instant healthy tiffin recipes to be served for tiffin.
- Binny ; who use to visit temples only during exams & bribe God, is now making her kids chant shlokas, water the tulsi plant & make them touch elders feet every morning before leaving for school.
- Binny ; who use to be always late for her work, has set multiple alarms for her kids to be punctual.
Same Carefree Binny is now just surrounded with anxiety whenever my 2K’s get ill.
Let me ask you a question?
Ever had a job, where you have no experience, no training, you weren’t allowed to quit and people’s lives were at stake?
THAT IS MOTHERHOOD.
- That guilt of not doing enough.
- Continuous fear of failure.
- What if you are not taking the right decision for them.
Motherhood is always A Journey of Tears,
If you are lucky than “Happy Tears” & if you are not, still mothers are tend to cry at least once in a day.
All mommies would agree with me if I say that : We moms don’t require any reason to cry, crying is like a therapy, which heals;
- Our unreasonable anger we shower on our kids.
- When our frustrated day turns to be a punishment for our little one.
- When their small mistake turns to be lack of discipline.
- But Mommies; Maturity is what we expect ,though we don’t want them to grow.
Trust me, this isn’t working for me.
So I tried the other way round.
I have started sharing:
- My stories of mischiefs in school & colleges; “As mischief is just another word of creativity.”
- My stories of being scolded by my parents and their harmless punishments; followed by loads of kisses and pampering.
- My stories of failures; “Because if you don’t fail, you don’t learn & if you don’t learn, you ‘ll never change.
- My stories of emotional breakdown; so as to make them understand that its fine to cry, its fine to ask for support & its fine to just take a break and start again.
Each night we have 30 min session of “How was your day”? & believe me Mommies; Your kids are the best storytellers.
So my dear parents;
Lets not burden our kids, fulfilling our expectations and as a tool to work on our unfulfilled desires
Just remember, “When a child enters your life, it is time to learn not to teach.”
My kids have taught me Time-management, Punctuality, Being crazy, being Me, Making sand castles, Swimming, Rubik cube, Chess, Cricket & what not.
I have learnt being ME.
Binny who was lost somewhere has returned that too in an updated version;
Binny who is more happy & independent.
So Mommies; Time to chill; As, There is no such thing as perfect mom, so just be a real one.
Motherhood can be Messy, Challenging, Crazy & Sleepless but still unbelievably beautiful.
Everything’s so true and relatable..
👏 💐
Thank you so much mam.
It’s really true di we be more independent and more careful
yes, we too need to enjoy our individuality. thank you for validating my point.
I can relate this with my motherhood journey too❤️
The best lines actually the feeling which you have described “let’s not burden our kids” is so true👍
I can see this in my day to day life, there is no competition between the kids nowadays but actually between the parents “ my child should come first” and the pressure which we as a parents putting in our child is hampering their own growth..
You described it very well😊👍
Yes dear, we should let our kids enjoy their childhood without overburdening them with our aspect of being at the top.
Really truly a inspirational note thanks for reminding us that v too have a life with lovely children
thank you so much, glad to hear that you could relate it.
Soo True, We as a parents can Learn soo many things from our child’s behaviour.
Let them Enjoy their life in their own way of innocence, and than we can see, They are doing better than our expectations.
Indeed. thank you so much for taking out your valuable time & giving your feedback. means a lot.
Reli it depicts every mom’s story , the struggles n happiness of being a proud mother
thank you so much for relating my story. Yes dear , its every mom’s story, so its a shout out to all mommies out there that you are not alone.
Great post Binny, the ups and downs of a docmom!
Thank you so much dear.
You are my aspiration, I have few blogs and rarely run out from to post .
thank you so much dear. Your words mean a lot to me. thank you for considering my efforts.
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So true.. Motherhood taught us to b new version of us.. It is scary jus for a while but beautiful for a whole life..
Great lines Binny
Thank you so much Shivani for your valuable feedback.
Hats off to the new version which we proudly embrace as Motherhood.